: Because from the minute we are put on this earth we are taught to please others. Boy aren't.
: I'm the mother of two boys and I also have three nephews. None of these males would shoulder the blame for anything that wasn't their fault. : --
: McSpotlight: So why should you?
Exactly, McSpotlight! If only it were that simple. Women are most certainly taught to behave much differently than men as soon as they are born. Women even learn to treat other women this way. And men have their own rut to struggle in as they are taught feelings are a sign of weakness. I confess I have found that I react with disdain at times when men in my life show weakness. I expect them to be pilars of strength for me to lean on because often I do not believe in my own strength as I was taught. If we women do not care to be the "fairer sex" then a part of the deal is not expecting men to be tough all the time. And there are those who will deny stoutly that they ever hold people to such expectations, yet if we look closely enough we will see that we often do in subtle ways. It works both ways. Certain things are expected of each sex by society. As youngsters we learn what is expected of us to earn love and approval and we become to an extent what society, our friends and families, expect of us. It is not so easy to break away from lifelong roles and recreate ourselves. But it can be done gradually. And if you believe yourself not guilty of these expectations, observe your reactions to those who do not fit the usuall definition of a man or woman. For instance when men belch or fart, it's funny, even to women(sometimes) but when women do the same it is most often not regarded the same way. There are many such standards. Women are often as quick to decry other women who step out of there boundries as men are.
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